Reframing is a tool that can alter the pressure we put on ourselves.

Reframing means exactly what it sounds like - to put a different frame on a situation.

Have you noticed how different a painting can look when you change the frame around it? The wrong frame can ruin a painting, while the proper frame can please the eye and reveal details not otherwise seen.

EX: Instead of Im never going to get all this done how about In how many ways can I get all this done and more, and enjoy the process?

While some people will say this is just semantics, I say its really using the power of words and focus to change your life.

Benefits of reframing

Looking at something in a different way, what we are calling reframing, provides at least two very powerful benefits:

1. Looking at a situation in a different way can reduce the stress of a situation.

2. Often getting a different view allows you to come up with solutions you would have never discovered before.

One of the best ways to get a different look at a situation or problem is to think about your favorite character in a book or movie, or someone whom you look up to. Then ask yourself how this person would look at the situation and solve the problem.

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com